so my friend was like no offense... but no ones going to seriously date a girl who lives with their mom.
My story: I recently moved back from my moms my ex and I had a house with roommates... I lost my previous job but I have another one and won't start making big bucks until August... but my mom said she can't take me off the lease when I want to it'll be up to a year... and I want to get out there and date! I'm educated smart and have my own car and job...
And I really don't want my own place where a Guy just wants to be with me so he basically ends up living with me using my car..etc etc... I wanna eventually date and get out there or make friends with guys I'm BUMBED OUT!
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That's not true at all! I know so many girls who live with their parents, have no jobs, no money, and aren't even nice that have bf's.
You have a job, you seem nice, and you have a good head on your shoulders. You just had some issues and had to move back in with mom for a bit. This kind of stuff happens.
Your friend is dumb. She is lucky she has a guy that provides for her and her kid. Not everyone is lucky to find a person who will stay by their side and be reliable.
I have friends like this too. They have never had to live on their own and have to struggle by themselves, they had kids in high school and lucky for them the guys decided to stick around and support them. The girls are great moms, but they don't know how hard it is for us single gals out there who are doing it for ourselves (some even have kids!).
I know having kids is hard, but so is being single and being vulnerable. Starting out with or without kids is not easy. I have bills to pay, and I pay them, but sometimes stuff happens. Our plans don't always work out, our relationships sometimes end. And then we find ourselves in a vulnerable position, especially if you were living with the boyfriend.
Many of my friends judged me when I was having room-mate issues. But they never had to live with room-mates, they were lucky that their family could afford their own place.
I think your friend just doesn't understand what you are going through because she has never had to deal with it. Yes, you don't have kids, but it can still be hard on you financially to go from a two income household, to being single and not having a place to live. But that is what family is for, they help you when you are down.
I had to struggle to get out of where I was, and had to ask my family for assistance. I felt like a loser for doing so, but I had no choice. I try to help my family where I can though.
I think your friend's problem is that she doesn't understand your problems. A lot of my friends think because I don't have kids that I have a worry free, easy life. But that's simplifying everything. Yes I do not have kids, but single people still have struggles. It's just different struggles than what someone with kids and a husband/SO have.