So I just finished date number one with this hot athlete girl...we're in the same class, but we flirt and hit it off great.
We just had lunch. Everything is great, but I feel like I don't physically touch her as ofter. We do hug and I do play around, but I'm not like physically holding her or caressing her.
I was going for being respectful at first...anyone have any ideas of how to start escalating? I don't want it to be awkward.
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My experience, because I'm gorgeous, is that women jump on you first. I don't know what your issue is.
Not really. I'm kind of average looking. Just felt like messing with you.
When I'm with a girl I just go for proximity of appendages. Feet end up tangled together, and footsie ensues. Our hands brush as we're walking, and a dose of hand holding breaks out.
Once your outer limits are crossed, your hands can wander inward. Go from holding her hand to putting your arm around her waist.
Remember being touched by respectful people. Maybe a teacher laid a hand on your shoulder, your mom stroked the back of your neck, a friend tousled your hair. All of these are fine in a platonic relationship. They're also okay at the beginning of a romance.
Once you're used to being in contact, talk about the attraction. Make sure you're making eye contact with her as much as possible to reassure her you're there for her. And make sure you're there for the person, not just the sex. Otherwise, don't use any of what I'm telling you.