I answered my own question I guess, I would tell myself to relax and stop working so hard but maybe someone has some insight that will help me.
I am dating a 24 year old woman who I really like. We have been out three times and the first date was amazing. We spent 6 hours together but we couldn't believe it had been that long. We kissed and said good night.
During the week that followed I felt like I was driving the contact, initiating texts etc and she responded but often left me hanging.
Jeez when I see what I write I can't believe I am hanging around with her. I must be crazy...
Second date which was supposed to be her attending a show I played and then we go out: she texts me a "heads up" that her mother wanted her to attend some birthday party and she would have to leave early. In the end she stayed really late but the next day texted me that she felt bad for doing it because she had let mom down.
In the week that followed, same pattern. I left her a couple of nice messages etc and. I can't stand myself I'm such a dupe...anyway third date I took her bowling and then took her to a private space where we could eat and dance which she loved. But again she felt bad for staying so long and in the week that just passed she has called me once (a first) and we spent an hour on the phone, but no date because she is "busy". Last communication was me asking her to tell me when she wanted to see me.
And here is what I will do, after reading what I have just written: I will do nothing, date other people and not take such abuse again. Like I have said in every single answer I have written: there are SO many girls out there why waste time with someone who is not floored by the nice things I do for her?
If she does come back to me and asks for another date, well, I may come and ask you again. But she hasn't so far.
Thanks for listening and reading. I appreciate it.
If you have any comments please share
She texted me last Saturday saying how "excited" she was about me and what I really have learned from this is that actions speak louder than words.
Thanks again, all
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"If you have any comments please share"
I'm not seeing how she is not giving much back when she stayed much later than she said she would letting her mom down in exchange for you. In my opinion choosing her family over some random d*ck is giving quite a lot and I find her to be the dupe not you.
"And here is what I will do, after reading what I have just written: I will do nothing, date other people and not take such abuse again"
I'm not seeing where you took any "abuse". o.O She responded to your contact and she stayed later than she said she would on the dates even going so far as to disappoint her mom.
"there are SO many girls out there why waste time with someone who is not floored by the nice things I do for her?"
Perhaps those nice things you're doing aren't what she wanted or asked. If her responses to your many nice messages are lackluster possibly don't send them she may find it bothersome not nice if she's busy or not the texting type.1