So I have been talking to this single mother for about one month.
I'm a big make a list person so this should make it easier to follow:
We both hit it off great, one date a kiss at the end.
We talked all day every day for about a week and a half after the date.
She stated a couple times that she is very busy over the summer with work. We made more dates but she could never find a sitter, so we had to cancel them.
I asked her how she felt about me and she replied that she is interested in pursuing things, she agree that we have a connection, but her exact words "if you find someone that's better for you go for it".
I haven't heard from this young lady in a week and a half. Could she be really that busy, could she be blowing me off, could she be seeking other men and doesn't have the heart to tell me things won't work out?
We are both 26?
What do you think?
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I agree with the other girls as possibilites. I think you need to flat out tell her that you're confused about the direction this is taking and need some clarity. Ask her if she's ready to make it official (if you're ready...at least you would know where you stand.
I'm not sure how I feel about wizeguy2350's response. It's like he just finished reading She's Not That Into You, or something. Some of what he said may be true, but there are no absolutes.
How she really feels probably depends a little on where she is in life. I'm a single mom and yes it can really be that difficult to find a sitter! When I started to think about dating for the first time after I had my child it seemed like a daunting task and an impossible mission. Especially without a good support system. And raising a child or children while managing a job or work can make time fly.
What I'm saying is that its entirely possible she has no intent and is unaware she's blowing you off. On the other had, if her kid(s) are a little older, she's been back in the dating game for awhile then something could be up.
If things clear up and you plan a second date, ask her if she'd be comfortable doing a picnic-play-date. She may not be ready for that, but it would give her the sense that you respect her as a mom and are ready to commit.
Oh and if you do confront her about your concerns you could try asking her what its like to manage a social life as a single parent. What dating has been like. Is it hard on her, are people pretty understanding of it. She may just not be comfortable opening up to you about that part of her life, until she see's that your interested. Ask her who she goes to for help, etc. Get to know the situation so she feels comfortable talking to you about and so there's no more misunderstanding.0