So I went on a first date with a guy, and during the date he initiated two phone calls first to see if his friends wanted to get drunk later..wtf ?!..turns out in his circle of friends there is a girl who he has already had drunk sex with, and even posted pictures of him and her waking up in a bed drunk on instagram, and I am assuming they still have sex. He was out with his friends and of course she was there but this time he was talking on the phone with me for about three hours telling me how he wants me take me seriously and blah blah blah lol, our second date is this weekend, but am I unsure if I want to continue to date him ? Just the thought of him having drunk sex with a friend who he still hanging out with bothers me! Am I over exaggerating? What should I do ?
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I don't even know you, but I'm going to go ahead and assume you are a very smart, beautiful woman, inside and out and at least, deserve the world.
With that said, higher your standards, and hold on to them as tightly as you can. Run from this guy. He could not give you even close of what I think you deserve, based on what you just described of him.
a) Initiating phone calls on a FIRST date, with a women - is rude and disrespectful.
b) The topics that arose in these phone conversations, in front of you, nonetheless - was very dumb of him. Do you honestly want to associate with a man who engages in drunk sex, and publicly exploits the act, more specifically, publicly exploits the girl? Does any of this tell you anything of his values and morals and how maybe he may not have any?
I think you deserve a guy who treats you like you are the only person in the room, full attention. Makes you feel alive and inspired. Instead out wasting time slowly deteriorating parts of his brain and other organs, he would be 100% invested in getting to know you on a much deeper level, so he can someday truly appreciate your presence by embracing the wonderful person that you are.
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