I may have said innocently amongst my friends and acquanintances that I like large breasts on a woman. In fact, the last two women I dated were shall we say more endowed. My ideal (both ethnically and figure-wise) is Namitha, who is a Bollywood actress.
However, it seems men share who my likes get vilified by many women, as we are being "shallow" or "not seeing the whole package". Why? lol.. Not to be offensive, but isn't it smaller-endowed women who are insecure who largely say this? To me at the least, my likes are benign, and simply dating women as above gives me joy. IMO, that's the whole point of having preferences and frankly dating, period. I am black, and wouldn't care if a woman said she didn't fancy black men. It is as is, and it's not my place to change others' standpoints or perspectives. It's not different to only dating blondes or women who are educated. Again, all preferences lead to joy, and why date somebody who on some level doesn't bring one joy?
That said, I am NEVER discriminatory or hurtful to smaller endowed women. As a matter of fact, I met one recently who in other ways was attractive, but told her she wasn't my type. We've remained good friends since then, but the real reason was that she was, well, less endowed, and I'm not a bastard and actually say to her that's the reason I'm not dating her. It may be that other men are not as humane/tactful, but not ALL of us should be condemned because some of us are fools.
This may be tl;dr, however to be succinct I don't get why men who like large breasts should be scorned, as it's just a preference and preferences per se are not evil. Provided men are respectful and not putting down less-endowed women, it should be fine IMO. As a side point, we need to teach more self-acceptance in society, as IMO it's the key to emotional wellbeing.
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I don't think its bad at all to have preferences. As you said, that's kind of the whole point of dating and such. You are entitled to have your own standards, but if you reject every girl you think is attractive and might even have a special connection with simply because she doesn't have big t*ts, that's where it can become a problem.
It's okay to go after only girls with big girls, but sometimes you might come across someone who might actually be the person for you, and you shouldn't reject her just because she's flat chested. At least I wouldn't, if I were you.
I have a type of guy I prefer as well. Tall, dark hair, toned, blue eyes etc etc. That is my ideal. But, I have been interested in guys who look nothing like that. Just like you found a smaller girl who you were attracted to, I was also attracted to guys that didn't fit my type, but unlike you I actually gave them a chance. And I'm glad I did!
Just don't be so rigid with your preferences, I guess. But there's nothing wrong or shallow about you for having them.0
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