I've been seeing a guy that's 6 years older than myself. We've hung out 3 times, and the last time, we had sex (my decision.) I've been d***ed around by guys in the past, so I'm nervous he's not looking for anything serious. He hasn't given me any reason to think he's not, but I'm pretty cynical of men. How can I ask him/figure out what his motives are? Also, do you think it's a big age gap? I'm worried his friends might give him sh*t for it? I don't live with my parents anymore etc , so not your typical 18 year old.
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I think it's a pretty big age gap given the ages that you are now.
But the older you get the less the age gap seems.
Being 18 years old and dating a 24 year old is very different from someone 21 dating a 27 year old.
Has long has you two have things incommon and enjoy each others company,
I don't think age should be a problem (keep in mind I have a 8 year age difference with my partner, and we've been together for 7 years).
I think why you've been "d***ed around" by so many guys is that you are having sex with them way too soon after meeting them.
It would have been better if you waited a bit longer before you gave him the goods.
If a guy truly likes you, he won't be in a rush to get it.
If a guy gets sex from you way too quickly it may change his impression of you.
"How many other guys has she given it up to?"
"She is an easy girl."
I'm not saying this is his case, but it could very well be.
There's no way to undo what's already done.
What you can do from this point is,
not have sex with him every time you see him, so he can see you beyond that.
If he makes it into sex all of the time then you know what he's all about.0