i have been dating this guy for 7 months, we get on great when we are together. I spend the weekends over his house. I don't see him during the week because we live an hour away from each other and we both work full time. I meet him on a dating site. he was my first and I gave up my v card to him. he hardly ever calls or texts. I always call him after work. he sometimes doesn't pick up. he's got an ex whose had his child but insists she's nothing to him and she was a mistake while he was drunk. I know he wants to see the kid but the ex makes up excuses as to not meet up. she knows about me, I have spoken to her. he's still on the dating site and adds girls on his Facebook. I was made to delete my dating account and all the guys on my Facebook. and phone. he even wanted my password which I gave him after a huge fight.. it wasn't that I'm hiding stuff, cause I'm not, its more about trust. he says he wants to marry me, he's got me on his phone as wife when I call. he's spoken to my mum telling her how much he loves me. he hardly ever tells me he does. is he playing me? I love the guy so much and I can't see my life without him.. my birthday was last sat, he told me I would get my present this weekend.
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The guy sounds like an a**hole, and not even the cool, james dean, devil may care kind of a**hole, who at least would be a sh*t ton of fun, whisk you away to exotic places, and treats you like a rockstar.
Any person who controls you in a relationship, is not a great match, it means they have trust issues, generally what will happen is some cheating will go on on his side, because he thinks that your are having a bit on the side, if he's controlling I would imagine he would then try and blame you, and if your soft you may take the blame unjustly.
controlling guys are also great manipulators of situations, which means they say the right things to the right people at the right time.
I know he popped your cherry, but in the grand scale of things he is one of many who will be with you throughout your life (or not many, but you get my drift)
So my advice is to get some distance take a break, stop being there at his whim, and see if he actually wants to play the game properly, that involves a bit of chasing, some romance, and getting rid of his past demons.
I know this kind of guy, because I was this type of a**hole for 3 years of my life. Now I'm just a devil may care tpe of guy :)