Me and this girl have only been dating a month and we aren't really "official" or anything and we've only kissed once. We are about to go on our fourth date on Monday and for some reason I always feel like she's going to cancel and like we aren't ever actually going to be together. I really like her and get nervous around her because of it and I know she feels the same way. She's really shy and she warms up to me more and more with every date (we were friends prior to dating). We also talk almost everyday till about 2am sometimes even 5am before stopping then picking up the next day. I know she likes me and her friends all tell me that but for some stupid reason I always have this doubt in my mind. Can anyone explain this?
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I agree with what most other people said, you need to speed up the physical contact. It seems very PG right now to me; nothing more than one kiss, no touching even (from what you've said, that's what I'm assuming).
I get that you're shy, but since she's shy too, one of you is going to have to be the one to set the pace, and in general it is usually the guys who do that. A shy girl is going to have a REALLY hard time kissing you first, or holding your hand, etc. You need to make these moves, and make it more of a normal and familiar thing.
Once you get comfortable with each other, your doubts will fade away. If you're worried about her dad or whatever, take her somewhere private where you can't be interrupted. If your place is private enough, invite her over, cook her dinner. Or take her to a nice outdoorsy area with a park, or woods you can stroll through. Hold her hand, put your arm around her, etc.
I think you just need to warm up to each other and stop feeling like acquaintances before your negativity will go away.0