OK. Before anyone goes completely ape s***, lets be realistic. Everyone has a type of person they are attracted to - hair color, height, personality etc... I've recently starting doing the online dating scene due to the fact that I work quite a bit and don't have the opportunity to go out and mingle. But here's the question, I'm a petite person, I'm not giselle but I would say I'm pretty decent looking (we all have to be confident in ourselves). My issue is that I am only being contacted by the VERY large overweigt men and I'm wondering why... Where are all the "average" guys? Or is average 250lbs+. I'm not trying to be rude, but I'm a small lady, and just in terms of plain physiology it wouldn't work for me. Are they just sending out mass emails and hoping something sticks?
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The ratio of guys to girls on dating websites is so heavily swayed against men, to their disadvantage, that women are inundated by messages - and as a result guys just have to play the statistic game, usually by cutting and pasting messages - with some bespoke editing depending on a girls profile.
What Online Dating does is put your physical preferences on 'extreme sensitivity' mode, in a way that seeing people in real life does not. All you are seeing when you view somebodies profile on a dating website is a still picture and a load (or in most cases lack of) text. There is no soul, and no real essence of a person that you can get to grips with. So people just follow the most stimulating sense, and that is our ability to 'see'.
Girls can afford to be picky, because they have control of the market in a sense. Guys cannot really afford to be as selective, because the odds are stacked so heavily against them from other guys. This disparity doesn't exist in the same level when seeing people outside of the realms of the internet. So you are probably receiving messages from people who you consider incompatible simply based on probablity mathematics.0