Ok, my story goes like this. I'm a 27 year old man, and I'm extremely shy when it comes to interacting with women. And there is no way I can ask a woman out directly, because of my shyness and also I can never be sure if she too feels the same way about me. And at 27, I'm feeling quite lonely without a partner, and I haven't really been in any proper relationship in my life at all. Hence, I'm considering the option of signing up on a dating site. I feel that the main advantage of dating sites is that the women there are always looking for something more than friendship, so I'll have a much better chance of finding someone and also avoid being 'friend zoned'. But I have heard a lot of negative things regarding dating sites. Firstly, most people say that only people who have failed to find a partner in real life, go for online dating as a last resort. In other words, they said dating sites are usually populated with social rejects whom no one in their right mind would want as a partner. The second thing I came to know is, the number of men on dating sites is usually 100 times the number of women, so unless a man is extremely good looking (or very attractive in some other way), he is unlikely to get any responses from women. Since most dating sites are paid (the free ones hardly have any members from my country, and I don't intend to date someone living too far away), I'd like to know some opinions here before making the move. Please help me out. Thank you.
P.S. I'm only looking for long term stuff, and not short term flings or one night stands.
Most Helpful Girl
Well, just look at the girls on online dating sites. It's not exactly the case that you're picking among the cream of the crop. You have to go through like 200 profiles before you find just one girl whose physical attractiveness is somewhat tolerable or acceptable.
Online dating is generally for people who are still single for a good reason. That's the marketing challenge for online dating sites. It's a known and accepted reality that these sites are basically a collection of being who are unable to find a partner through the normal course of life or social experiences, and so they need this last resort safety net in an last resort effort to try and not live the rest of their lives alone.
I don't mean to be difficult on girls. Guy on online dating sites are just as bad.
So, automatically, right off the bat, you have this negative reasonable assumption that you have the burden of dispelling. Then, if a guy is actually attractive, girls are thinking, "what the hell is he doing on here?" Good looking guys on dating sites actually have it harder, because they have an uphill battle of proving that they're not just there looking for a one night stand or just sex with easy desperate women.0
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Most Helpful Guy
Actually, I've had a female friend who is only 23 and also attractive find love through an online dating website almost 3 years ago, she's engaged now to that guy. Probably one of the most happiest relationships I've seen in a while. As far as the guy..i would say he's not a Channing Tatum or a Brad Pit..he's kinda low on the scale, but it was his personality that hooked her.
. I also have another female friend who does a little modeling from time to time find a guy over the internet, I don't really think it was a online dating site though..but anyway they've been together for some years too. Moved somewhere close the ocean.
Anywho..it's not just for "losers" I've known a few girls who are just tired of the guys in there area. They feel that they need a change and they just branch out. A good thing about the online dating..people seem to have more confidence..so you tend to show the real you. And as we know confidence is the key.
I say go for it, I mean...even if it doesn't work out..you won't have any what if's. Just try...what else do you got to do?0
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