I'm ready to be very frank:
I put myself on online dating. I'm 26, brunette, 5'9 hourglass figure.
So far I have gone on two dates. One with a man I spoke to for a month, the other with a man I spoke to for only 4 days.
With the first man (one month) - he was tipsy by the time I got to the bar. But he was enigmatic and excitable and happy. I went along with it and it was very 'fun'. We ended up kissing, quite a lot actually. This was in between talking and laughing and being 'cute'. He joked about wanting to introduce me as his girlfriend to his friends ~ and what would I say ~ I was looking at him shocked (too soon) but it was sweet. I excused myself at 10:30pm, as I felt it was going fast - then he called when I got home.. He wanted to keep talking - he came to my place (I know - save your judgement - BIG mistake). We inevitably and regrettably slept together. It was very strange after - I expected to not hear from him. But I did. Texts and calls - just not as many. And no subsequent date. So I called his bluff and he came back angry at me becuase he had serious work dramas. Anyway, he wasn't as sweet and nice - and I don't make contact anymore. He hasn't made contact in two days since we had a little text war.
Date number two - was not anything like the first. Coffee and cake. It went for 3 hours. We ended up kissing at the end - but nothing else. He asked to see me again and it's been 4 days with no text.
Clearly - in the first date I gave away WAYYYYY too much too soon and he lost interest. In the second date though, is kissing so bad?
Is it true that in order for a date to 'work' you have to play a game and play hard to get? Even if you want to go with the moment?
- You're totally doing it wrong. You do have to play a gameVote A
- You're not doing it wrong, keep being yourself.Vote B