Ladies, would you consider dating a transgender man? Would you rather know up front or would that keep you from giving him a chance? I'm just a regular guy who happened to be born in the wrong body. I'm far enough along in my transition that nobody ever thinks about my gender and just accepts what they see. Where can I find a lady who will take a chance on me? Please no insults or hate. Just looking for honest answers.
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you have to be honest about who you are. but at the same time, you have the right to keep that information private until you trust a person enough to share it. there needs to be a happy medium. let's say we went on a few dates and we liked each other, and there was chemistry, and THEN you told me. I think I'd be really surprised and I would probably tell you that I needed to think about it. and then I'd ask you A LOT of questions. I don't know what other people would do, but I know I would. I'd want to know everything about it, how comfortable you are with yourself now, if you're happy, if you made the right decision, etc. I can't imagine what it's like to feel like you were born in the wrong body :/ I can only say that it must be brutally confusing, so you'd have to help me understand. and I think... I think I'm open-minded enough to be OK with it. there will be women out there who will take a chance on you, just as there will be women who get freaked out and will always think about you as a girl... that's the reality of it. my advice to you is not to just blurt out that you're transgendered. share it a little after getting to know each other when there's some established trust.
and presentation is key. practice in your head exactly how you'd say it to her. you're your best advertising agency lol. so be sincere, tell her you hope she'll give you a chance. I think she'd be hard-pressed not to. good luck with everything :)0