I've been having having a horrible time trying to do this internet dating thing. I sent out a bunch of messages, all of which I thought were somewhat decent, but I managed to receive zero replies. I know my messages weren't great, usually just a simple comment and a small random question about something interesting in their profiles, since I'm not good at on-the-spot wit, but I thought they might be decent enough to maybe get a reply or two. So that leads me to think there's either something wrong with my profile, or something horribly wrong with me in general.
Ladies, I've heard that you get flooded with messages on dating site (especially OkCupid), so, what kind of messages do you respond to? How much does someones profile influence whether or not you'll even reply? If you could provide any examples of good messages, and maybe bad messages—especially bad ones that aren't obviously bad, like "hey you want 2 fuk?"—I'd really appreciate any advice or input you could provide!
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It's definitely tough just due to the sheer volume of messages girls get, and like you I felt like I got almost no replies at first. However, I feel like I have been doing relatively well recently. First off is to have realistic expectations, I think getting one reply to every 10 to 15 messages you send is pretty successful for that site. Read their profile, find something unique on there, not just the same stuff everyone has, like enjoys traveling, or good sense of humor. Also, read the bottom question the "you should reply if," that can really give you clues as to what to say. So make a comment about that one thing that stood out in the profile, preferably say something rather witty, ask a question, if applicable make a comment about yourself that relates to that unique thing, then say your name. Don't make it longer than a few sentences, and don't be discouraged if they visit your profile and don't reply. Here's an example of one I sent and got a reply to, she had recently moved to AZ and really liked the show Lost, "Hey Amanda, I'm Ty. How are you liking AZ, how long have you been here? So how big of a Lost fan are you. It's one of my favorites so I know you have good taste:)"1