I have been with my wife since I was 16 and she 15. I love her to death. We also have a two year old together.Ill be honest I have cheated on her about 3 years ago. But I have come to realize she's all I want, our problems started about a month ago. she accused me of cheating and to not fight I ignored her. She got mad and said its over and deamnded I leave. I said no that I wasn't cheating annd that she is taking this too far. Well now I'm sleeping on the couch sad as hell that I might lose her. One night I pick up her phone and read her messages. I see she talks to 3 guys from her job but one she talks with the most. it wasn't normal conversation it was oh yeah carino(like honey in Spanish ) and other sweets names she used to call me,. when I asked her about it she flipped out and said he's a friend from work.That she talks to him like that as a joke. We argued and she confessed that she's been talking to him and texting him.That she turned to him instead of me when her grandpa died. She has only been at the job for about 4 months and made close friends with guys real fast. AS for me I've been treating her well. She works full time and I part time. When I get out of work I cook and clean the house while taking care of our son. I just feel like she has been cheating. hould I feel this way? She said she stopped texting hi, like that but my curosity lead me to read again and this guy is textingg her sexaully like saying he's having dreams about her on top. She lol and says that sounds like fun. I need help please I'm so sad
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She might not physically be cheating right now but emotionally she is relying on someone else. This may be cos there's something lacking in your relationship. The best thing to do would be to sitdown with her and talk. Ask her why she feels emotionally distant, what can you do to help, what does she want. Be ready for some criticism too, you may think in your eyes you are doing everything right but the recipient may not have ypur same view and your view doesn't translate the same way to her. Also, if your wife is accusing you of cheating, don't ignore her...that's not beneficial and extremely damaging to the relationship.
Does she know about your cheating from 3 years ago? If she does, perhaps that trust you lost has always played on her mind and now that this other guy is gicing her attention, it may in some way remind her of what you did in the past.
Also, some guys are like that, as in they talk sexually to women. Clearly the guy has no respect for the fact she's a married woman and just may be enjoying the attemtion cos somethings lacking in your relationship...of course it's wrong that sje's doing that. When you address your issues with each other may be you could mention that she shouldn't turn elsewhere and you can help by listening to her when she has concerns. From what you said, it sounds like she doesn't feel close and is simp2