Of course, to some degree men are affected by this too, but not nearly as much as women. There are hoards of aesthetically ugly men who have beautiful women because you guys value confidence, personality, humor, status, wealth, etc.
Of course we men care about personality to some degree as well, but deep down we mostly care about looks FIRST, and the other stuff second.
I see lots of guys here pissed that you'll see a guy with a nice car and be attracted to him, because it shows he has stability and wealth. They think it's unfair, and I agree with both sides in that regard.
So I was curious to your take on the other side of the coin. How do you feel knowing your dating success relies heavily on how good you look?
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that's something that's bothered me a lot in the past. I don't want someone to date me because I look good on his arm. that's why I extensively screened the people I dated. I never said yes to dates from people at the gym or random guys on campus. I have only ever dated people I considered good friends first. I figure that gets rid of all the people who just wanna get laid quickly- and that's certainly proven to be true. the small number of guys I have seriously dated have been amazing men. people who'll change the world. these guys...well, they aren't typical. I truly do not believe that they find the physical aspect to be more important, or primary, to everything else. it's very easy to discern the guys who are only in for the looks, for the ones who are more mature and looking for substance.2
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