Ok so I have two dates coming up with two different girls and even though I'm not committed to either, I can't help but feeling bad about it for some reason.
The first girl I already have been on three dates with over the span of three or so weeks. We almost had the exclusive conversation after our last date. But the next day she freaked out at how fast we were moving and tried to run away from everything. Two days later she apologized said she freaked out because she hasn't dated in a while and got scared how fast she liked me and how quick we were moving. She asked me for a second chance and I have a date with her again this week.
The second girl I actually met before the first girl, almost two months ago now. We had a date set up about a month ago and she backed out with what could have been a plausible excuse. At the time I thought it was a bs excuse and kind of wrote her off as uninterested. However she continually kept in text conversations with me the last few weeks and I suggested a second chance at a date and she said she was busy so I stopped asking her. it just so happened one of the two days I thought me and the first girl were done she texted me asking me to hang out this week. I said yes.
Now I know its common for people to date more than one person before it's an official relationship, but is it odd that I feel bad about it? And if I go through with both dates, how long can I keep going with both until it really becomes unacceptable? Like 4 dates in and a month time with the first girl almost seems like I wouldn't be able to give the second girl much of a shot before that one would be official. I really liked the first girl, but her bailing for two days worries me a little bit so I kind of want to give the second girl a chance, but I think it will be harder to turn her down eventually if I actually go on a date with her and pick the first girl.
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i am kinda on the same boat..more like the girl with two guys. I am glad I am not alone.
i would feel the second one is prob. better, take it slow with her.
the first one seem a bit off with two cancelled dates.
i am kinda like the second one, I dated the guy three times and we made out...i kinda freaked out because I have been out of the dating scene for a long time. I text him and apologized...i don't know how he feels now. I told him I want to see him again..so we'll see.
now I do think about him more and prob. would like to talk to him more
on the other hand, I am still seeing another guy but not often...
yes..as conflicted as you ... sigh *0
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