I'm not trying to toot my own horn but can a guy be too good to date? I will start by saying that I'm far from the most attractive guy in the world but the way in which I carry myself and live my life is one that should appeal greatly to a girl that is serious about relationships and knows what she's doing and isn't trying to make an immature douche bag her husband, figuratively speaking.
Pardon my rashness but I can't stand it much longer. Girls don't even seem to get it. Back on topic, I am confident that I am going somewhere in life and I present myself well and have a broad sense of humor that appeals to many kinds of people young and old.
Girls my age, since high school, have always acted strange around me, inviting me out but never actually talking to me despite my efforts, never tagging me in photos afterward, flirting but never actually going on dates when asked even after saying yes. Just being weird! It feels like we're friends but we're not, because they never actually are much of a friend to me when it comes down to it.
It's making me angry. Then I talk to older women and they're friendly as can be. Joking, laughing. I don't even know. Maybe most people in their late teens, early 20s just aren't very personable. Everyone seems very cliquey and closed off to others, acting like swagged out tools, even girls, when I have always tried to be open to everyone, nice and above all, not someone that I'm not. Again, pardon my harsh tone, it's just a bit of bitterness coming through.
I just wish people could come through for me for ONCE, when I try my best to be open minded and interested in getting to know others. If I'm trying to do my very best, why would girls ignore me? All while going for guys that aren't even trying in life to be something greater, to live to their fullest, to live a healthier life, because I don't even want to get started about how often perfectly attractive, beautiful girls go on to date smokers, drug users, and stoners.
It's just bulls***. I'm not like that and frankly don't want to be like that. Sure I have my own problems (such as this) but I'd love to be recognized, hell, even rewarded for going through life the right way, just ONE time. But it's like people don't even process what I say, how I live, they don't understand it and they don't understand how alone I feel everyday.
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To be honest, some people are just immature. Some girls don't know what it's like to be friends with a guy so they don't know how to act.
I've been cyber bullied before. I didn't really realize it was bullying at first, and it really affected the way I thought of myself for a long time. I'm also shy in certain situations and I am also pretty introverted. So I had some trouble making friends in middle school up until mid 8th grade.
The whole time, I've been hanging out with people I wasn't that comfortable with, and that made me feel lonely and unwanted. I had a pretty bad self esteem.
***Find a group of people willing to accept you for who you are.
Even though I've found a group of close friends, I learned that it doesn't necessarily add more to your schedule. This means that just because I found friends doesn't mean my loneliness improves a lot. Sure, it does, but I barely hang out with my friends. Some are lazy, some aren't. It just depends on the people.
And those girls who date those douche bags -- those relationships never last, so don't worry about it.
You got this. Just keep meeting new people and get to know who they really are. You are a precious person.
It's good to be picky.
If you don't like how some people are treating you, you can always stop trying to get to know them/stop befriending them.
It's your life -- you're choices.
Best of luck!0