Is being a good listener a good or bad trait for a guy who has a romantic interest in a particular girl? I thought being a good listener was a good quality to have, but then I came across a few articles that said that being a good listener can/will put you in the friend zone.
What are your thoughts?
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I think you need to be a smart listener. By that I mean, as a guy, you need to always be paying attention to what she does, as well has what she says, and how she says it. You have to listen for the right reasons. Reason one...to decipher whether what she is saying shows she has high or low interest level in you . Most girls won't mention all their problems to a guy they like. If you notice she's telling you all her bad news...problems etc, and asking you for advice...you need to realize, you are becoming one of her other gf's/shrinks, which should tip you off about her interest in you.
If you are tuning her out when she says cheese pizza is the only pizza she likes, you're going to look like a moron 3 weeks later when you order a supreme for her. This makes you look bad on many different levels. You just gave her a red flag.
So...to recap. You need to listen when your angel is talking. If you notice she's telling you all her negative problems and complaining...you need to understand those are red flags, and you shouldn't be spending time with girls who do that.
If this angel is telling you useful happy, information about herself, or family...your ears better perk up...and you better be taking notes!2