a gold-digger? does that describe a gold-digging personality of a woman? what do you think? if she won't date a guy that still lives with his parents and doesn't have a college degree
If a girl refuses to date a guy that lacks a college degree, still lives with his parents, does that make her
What Girls Said 7
It probably means she wants a guy who is motivated and has a future. She's not a fool, she isn't trying to be a future trailer park/section 8 dweller with a loser for a baby daddy.5
It doesn't make her a gold digger. It means she is looking for someone with maturity. No offense but it doesn't seem like you have your life completely sorted yet, and many women in their twenties would rather date someone who has. It's good that you know you have stuff to work on, such as getting your career established and moving out of your parents' home. Perhaps your energy is better spent on that right now, than worrying about your dating life.
23 is young enough that you don't have to worry about the women 'not getting any younger'. You are in no position in life to settle down with a woman right now, so why worry? Most people don't settle down until their 30s (or close to 30) these days due to a focus on education and career development in their early 20s. It's the smart thing to do. Get yourself established so that when you want to settle down, you're not going to be that struggling husband or dad trying to make ends meet.
You realize that you are not getting any younger, and while this has no impact on your future with women, it does have an effect on your career trajectory. Others have graduated college by 23 and are starting their careers. Since you have not moved out of your parents' home, I assume that you don't have a proper job or career yet - at least not one that allows you to pay rent on your own apartment. This is where your focus should be if you don't want to be constantly rejected by women who prefer men who are more mature - mentally and career-wise.
Not only is drive and ambition a turn-on for most women (who wants to be stuck with someone who doesn't appear to have goals?), it is also a signal to them that they might actually have a future with you that does not involve struggling financially forever. It makes them sensible, not gold-diggers. I don't mean to imply that you have no ambitions. But a woman needs to see you demonstrate that, even if you haven't achieved any of those goals. I know many women who don't need to date successful men so long as their guy is driven and working towards actually achieving something. If you are perceived as a loser by the general female population due to lacking such traits (whether the perception is fair or not), then you are only going to attract unambitious women who don't have much going for them either. Good luck building a future with such a person.
On a casual dating level, most American women in their early to mid twenties who don't have religious values that preclude them from having sex are going to expect it at some point. So even if you're not looking for something serious at this point in life, the fact that you live with your parents means that she will feel there is no privacy in your home. No one wants to be in their 20s and still sneaking around like a teenager just because their man doesn't have his own place. In the meantime, your best bet would be to date women in similar positions as yourself - still finding their feet but hopefully, upwardly mobile.1
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Uh no, why is having standards being a gold digger? It's like saying that guys that like girls with boobs are a**holes. Most people would expect you to have some sh*t together before you go playing the field. I wouldn't date someone that didn't make as much or more money than me. I grew up struggling financially I'm not going back and I sure as hell am not taking care of a man financially as well as cook and clean and pamper him. I think its a huge turn on at least for me to date someone that is hardworking and ambitious, I doubt anyone would hook themselves to a wagon going nowhere fast. Just sayin.1
While it depends on what stage of life a man is at, and as someone in your boat, it's all about maturity and ambition. If you live in with you parents, then be hustling to work your way to your career. With that said, no I don't thing a woman is a gold-digger for that, she just wants a mature equal. I expect that out of myself, so why wouldn't I expect that out of a man I want to be my equal?0
it doesn't make her a gold digger, if she is educated too it is perfectly reasonable.0
What Guys Said 19
NO! Id say that not having a college degree and still living with the parents shows a lack of ambition in life and also makes you seem immature and lazy. Women want a guy who has a future who seems to have a life plan for having a job and being able to be independent and at some point support a family. You could argue that you don't have a college degree because you cannot afford it or that you still live with your parents for the same reason but really it all comes down to effort. You could at least have a job to pay for a degree or an apartment. I know personally I won't sate a girl unless she seems to have a life planned out in front of her and isn't just freeloading that does not make me a gold digger, that makes me smart in my decision for a life partner :P like many people, I would prefer be with someone who will be successful and make money. If this question was a personal question then I suggest you get a job, take out a bank loan for college programs that start in January (there are many). Work hard and get that degree, time to get life started man and the ladies will follow! good luck and hope this helps :)3
No it doesn't. Gold diggers are ones who you'd notice right away if they were wanting money as they'd only want to go to a high end restaurant, want frequent gifts that are expensive, and so on. All expecting you to pay 100% of course.
Having a degree is just one way a girl measures "success" from a guy but these girls don't realize the fallacy in looking at a degree from a guy. Living with the parents is another. It is hard to move out these days in general and some people move out and things don't work out so they move back home to save money. If a girl cares, she'll understand. The college degree thing I feel is overrated if you don't have a major that's getting you a job. More and more people are catching onto what a scam college is. Plenty of people with Master's are jobless with an expensive piece of paper and no job to pay it off. I only recommend a degree to people who are going into jobs like medical and such. Too many jobs can even backfire on you if you have a degree.
The problem I find with girls who judge such traits is that a lot of them haven't achieved these things for themselves. My last Girlfriend was an easy example. One of the first things she pointed out about me was that I have my own apartment. She lived with her parents though. Yet she was excited to hear that I have an apartment. If I was judgmental, I could have criticized her for not having her own place but I actually understand situations people end up in. Living with the parents can make things annoying for a person who lives on their own. A person who lives on their own doesn't have to put up with the parents being around, commenting on things, or the family arguments that may go on, or invading people's privacy, sharing bathrooms, and so on.1
It depends. If you think any woman who cares about a man's financial status is a gold digger, sure, and by that definition, almost all women once they are out of school and working themselves are gold diggers.
If you think a gold digger is a woman who dates or sleeps with men she's not attracted to in order to reap the financial benefits, then no. Some women fall into that category, most do not, unless under pretty extreme financial duress.
most women are genuinely more attracted to rich successful men. Even if they can't touch his money. Their instincts want his genes, and maybe resources for his children. A true gold digger wants his bank account for her own spending.2
No, it doesn't mean she's a gold-digger. It means she wants a guy who is intelligent and will likely be successful.3
No it doesn't make her a gold digger. You can have a college degree and have your own place and be broke. A gold digger goes after money, I would say a woman going after a man with a college degree that doesn't live with his parents is just looking for someone who's established, and may be ready to settle down. There's nothing wrong with living with your parents at 23, or at any other age depending on why. Don't rush out to get your own place, sure it sounds like a lot of fun, and it can be, but it's also very expensive. There are tons of women who don't give a rats booty about college, or where you live, they just wanna have fun.0
makes me hate the cards I was dealt with for being a guy3
It would depend on why he's living with his parents and what he's doing for a living. If he's a deadbeat who is constantly broke, it's understandable that she wouldn't want to date him.1
Trust me man, I am in a similar predicament where I got my life started a bit later. I am envious that others seem more independent and that women seem to search for it. Keep at it. Make sure you are at least moving forward towards a goal of some kind.
To quote Vegeta: "First the money, then the bitches".0
Depends. Does this lady have a degree?
If not then probably. Or she's looking for someone to take care of her.1
to me yes it does3
I don't think so, but blame evolution and biology0
"A gold digger is a girl who purposely wants a guy for money related things in my book."
Nobody is obligated to date anybody, in any circumstance. So why does the exception of the person being dependent change things?0
women want somebody better than themselves so they can use his resources etc. Its how they will always be unfortunately. Nothing is more shallow than women1
Not necessarily unless she was in a similar position. I always say that the bear minimum you should be open to dating is someone on your level. I'm in college right now and many of my female colleagues will not date me because I don't have a car yet they take the Metro to school or mall etc. Many girls I know believe that once they have experienced certain luxuries (a car, a man with an apartment/house, 5 star treatment) they can never "downgrade" and every guy from hereon in must be at a certain level or higher. It is like woman who demand their exhusbands maintain their level of living after a divorce.
People in generally need to stop having lists upon lists of things they want and actually look at the core of relationships which is compatibility. The kind of compatibility that comes from getting to know someones traits and character and not the material possessions you seem1
First off you're still young. Don't worry about finding a girl that already wants to settle down. No, it doesn't make her a gold digger. Gold digger's tie a person worth entirely to your wealth. When said wealth is gone or they find someone with more...your worth is nothing. What you're describing is a different phenomenon.
Hate to say it buddy. Unless you're unbelievably good looking your financial stability, ambition, drive determines your value to most women. Obviously for us guys, we usually don't give a sh*t about any of that when picking a partner. Guys are similar in how we focus too much on physical attraction and less on the quality of the person.
Once I got my Engineering degree I suddenly became more interesting to women my age. I actually avoid telling people what I do until I know them better.
Don't let it get to you man, and don't let it make you bitter. It's just the way things are.
Just keep an eye out for that girl that see's what direction your heading and recognizes your potential. That's someone that's worth keeping.1
No, but I mean most people strive for a college degree and not living at their parents house after a certain age. Unfortunately, due to the bad state of the economy and lack of jobs, some people don't have a choice. Many opt out of going to college and take part-time work instead, or go to a trade-school of sorts. I think people should be understanding and respectful of individual situations, but in all-reality, many aren't.1
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