Very short summary: my parents are strictly conservative, homeschooled me through high school, and have like, horse and buggy dating ideas.
I kid you not, first time I dated, Freshman year of college, my mom asked how the date went, and didn't like it that the date ended with a hug. Not because that was friendzoning, but because she thought hugging a guy on a first date was a sign of a slutty girl.
And a year later, I was bummed out because that girl had friend zoned me after a short dating try, and I did some online dating, and sort of had a hookup with a girl I met, and my sister sort of figured it out, and told my parents... they threatened to kick me out of the house unless I gave them the girl's address and they went and got some sort of confirmation I didn't do anything with her. Which I barely got out of.
So, it's been two years since I went on a date, and now I just feel nauseous at the thought of asking a girl out. (last semester of college, can't move out yet) Not at all the fault of girls, I could've had five hookups in the last months if I wanted. I've sort of set up hookups or considered asking girls out, but I start feeling anxious and repulsed and nervous and grossed out now and usually just end up ignoring girls who want to talk or try to strike up conversations.
So, anyone else had issues with dating/sex from super conservative parents? Did you ever get over it?
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Since you don't have much longer, just follow their rules for now. And then you do date. My parents threaten to kick me out every time I do something they don't approve of. And the day I turned around and said “that's fine, I'm packing, good-bye” they changed their tune. Mind you, I have a few bargaining powers that not many get when it comes to their parents. It's a control technique and if you give in and fear their power over you, the more power they have.
What are they really afraid of? Have you had an honest talk about what their idea of dating is? I live in a conservative community and we do actually have Amish/Mennonites around so when you say horse and buggy ideas about dating, I picture someone who thinks the first date makes you exclusive and there should be wedding bells by the 5th.
I suggest you think long and hard about what makes you grossed out/anxious about dating and sex. Work on your mindset and don't let it be influenced by your parents. It's not healthy to react like that to the thought of being with a girl. I have no issues when it comes to dating/sex despite coming from a conservative home. Other than that I'm against hooking up and casual.1