He was a 2 month fling... almost a year ago. But at the time I was 19 and he was 26. I had only had done it once before and thought he was my boyfriend, but he just used me for it. I became emotionally attached. Whenever I asked to hang out, he would say OK, but then cancel it and say he'd be over later, then we would do it.
Anyways, he's from Brazil and went back 9 months ago... he told me over text he was leaving, and never came to say goodbye to me. He Facebook messaged me briefly when there, but I haven't heard from him in 9 months. It took me a bit to get over him, I cried constantly because I felt worthless and ashamed I let myself be used. I deleted him on Facebook 3 months ago because I didn't think I"d ever talk to him and wanted to cut off all contact, plus I have a boyfriend of 6 months who I"m very happy with, I honestly haven't thought of the other guy in a while. Out of the blue the other day, I get a messaged from him saying it's been a while and how am I. I acted cordial, and was surprised when he said he noticed I deleted him and that I took a while to respond, but at least I'm not so mad. I said to him that I'm not mad, I've moved on and have a boyfriend. He said he had a girlfriend himself. Then I said good for you and to have a nice life. Because why is he messaging me anyway? But I feel I was too nice. I actually got mad after I sent it because the feelings of how heartbroken I was came back. I really want to send him a message saying it was an awful thing he did ect. However, maybe it's better to not come off angry?
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Nah leave it. I know exactly what you mean though, he deserves all he gets for doing that to you, but in the end he won't be the one suffering you will be if you do send a nasty message. You sound like an intelligent nice girl and you don't need to lower yourself to his level. Let him stay down there and continue being the arse hole that he is. To be fair you have already given him a dig, you told him your with someone new and that you're happy for him. This will really bug him, because it shows you're happy and that you don't care about him, which obviously he is not, otherwise he wouldn't be messaging you.
Next time he messages you just ignore him. You have suffered enough already feeling used. Say ciao to this one.