Should the man ALWAYS pay for dates?

The accepted social norm is that man should always pay for dates. But should this be followed even if the woman is significantly richer than the man?

P.S. I think this is probably a hypothetical question, because hardly any woman would be willing to date a man of lower financial status than her.


Most Helpful Girl

  • No. You should split at first and then, if the relationship continues, the other person should start contributing. If you make about the same, it should be about even. If one person makes more, they often pay more. If the couple is doing something that one partner really wants to do, but the other doesn't -- the person who wants to do it should pay.

    However, make sure that since guys do most of the asking, you should pick something affordable and not try to impress her with a fancy date that she didn't get to influence the location of. A third bit of information that girls sometimes try to get guys they aren't really attracted to to "grow on them," whereas guys generally date out of immediate sexual attraction. We have less incentive on early dates, sometimes. Paying a lot to hang out with someone you aren't that keen on can make you even less likely to want to get to know him. Grabbing a beer or coffee or a cheap meal are better for the first few dates.


Most Helpful Guy

  • It's easy enough to read how a woman thinks about this on the first date. 1) If she makes no effort to even voice an offer to pay, she always expects men to pay for everything all the time. 2) If she voices that she'll go dutch or she'll cover this, but makes no effort to dig in her purse to find her wallet, then she is just acting to give you the impression she doesn't expect the man to pay all the time, but she really does expect a man to pay all the time. 3) If she admittedly fights to pay her share and insists on it, pulls out her wallet, etc. then she actually expects you to go dutch with her, but not let her pay the entire thing...