I call or text the guy I'm seeing first every time (well, in the very beginning, he called and texted me).
I don't mind being the one who initiates (although, I suppose it would be nice to hear from him first). I always get a very positive response and I just don't like waiting around to call or whatever when I feel like catching up. We only talk or hang out like once a week and he's been really busy with some changes he's figuring out in his life, not that he tries to make that an excuse, it's just something I'm aware of. When we talk or hang out, he's pretty clear about what he wants and we're developing a bit of a friendship at the base of this. The chemistry is undeniable too.
My question is, I always read all this stuff about how if a girl does all the initiating, a guy will lose interest. It seems kind of silly to me. What do you guys think. If a girl likes a guy, shouldn't she just act on it and will it really influence his feelings if she's doing the initial legwork?
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I completely disagree with the answerer who said 'guys hate women that approach or do anything...'
I love it when women approach me in bars or take the initiative in a relationship. When a woman approaches me, I'm at least interested in her. Simply because it's not something that happens a lot. When she takes the initiative to suggest things we could do in the relationship, it shows that I'm actually dating a person, and not an accessory with a conveniently placed hole.
Anyways, back to your question. It doesn't mean he'll lose interest. That really only applies to the first few dates.
It may, however, mean something else:
He's not that interested in you.
He prefers to be the one in control.
He just is occupied with other things.
You can do two things:
1. Wait him out and see what happens.
2. Sit down with him and talk about it. Just ask him why he doesn't ever initiate anything. Tell him you like it when a man takes the initiative.0