I broke up with a guy affter 3 months then I felt very bad about it so I sent him an email and told him I've always found him amazing even too good to be true and he's always been really nice to me. (Though I broke up with him for a reason, just don't want to go into details here). I only sent it because I felt a bit guilty and wanted him to feel better but now I'm not too sure if it was a good idea. How would you feel if you'd get a message like this after a break up? He didn't reply to this one, there is no contact between us at the moment.
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Well without trying to sound harsh on you here, you made a huge mistake sending that text. You just broke up with him and then you send him a message saying that he was amazing, the perfect boyfriend almost. That immediately puts him into either one of 2 mindframes.
1) He starts to think you are lying because after all, why would you break up with him if he was so amazing?
2) He starts to over think absolutely everything. "Why would she send me a text like that if she wanted to break up?", "Maybe she doesn't want to break up and this is her way of trying to get me back somehow!", "She says I was amazing, maybe I still have a chance to get her back?" and so on and so fourth,
If you broke up with him with no intention of a possible get back together then a break up needs to be clean and to the point. Sending a message like that could give him the idea that there is still a possibility of you two getting back together in the future. If you broke up with him for someone else then honestly, you should of told him that because it would just hurt him more to find out at a later point (personal experience on that one).
He is probably hurting right now. So if you still want to be friends with him, give him some space for now. If he wants to remain friends, he will contact you at some point.1