So I've recently created a profile on a dating site (and yes, I have added a picture).
A profile is a complete nonsense. Anybody can write anything, so I just wrote some vital data. I think it is logical to use the discussion approach.
So I've sent one message to about twenty five women so far, and most of them didn't even feel like answering "not interested" or whatever.
So far, only one had the politeness to answer that she wasn't interested, and wishing me luck for my search.
I thanked her for her reply.
Taking the fact that I am polite and not freaky when contacting them for granted, I don't understand why I am being nearly completely ignored.
I am aware there are usually ten times more men on these sites than women, but I don't see it as a good reason to ignore people, especially when they take the time to write a constructed message to you.
So women, why don't you take a few seconds to at least say thank you but no thank you ?
Let's say that the guy sent you a personalized message, took his time to write it, introduced himself and tried to put some of your interests in adequation to his, that he was polite, that the message was well written, and not a simple copy-paste.
Let's then say that you weren't interested.
Why wouldn't you reply, then ?
I perfectly understand that spam gets deleted instantly.
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I was on a dating site for few months.I would reply to guys that sent me message politely but not one line message like "HEY or HI"
I even received few guys who sent me something like 'i' which meant Hye. I was surprised that they think that I would respond to that kind of message.
These are the very common messages that I definitely ignored :
3.Lets hook up
4.You are hot
6.Are you open minded?
So It depends how they message me.I would prefer a guy to read about my descriptions and give opinion on it.
On dating site girls received more than 50 messages per day so I don't think she will want to waste her time by responding to every messages just to tell that she isn't interested.Moreover,not every guys can be cool about it.Some will get depress,bitter and angry,even bash us out.So many girls don't want to deal with all this sh*t.They just think it would be better not telling them the truth in a direct way.Ignoring equal to "not interested" but I agree it isn't really an appropriate way to respond.