How is it that a girl can date one guy for a time, break up with him, maybe end up hating him later on, but then never date or reject a guy that, in life's big picture, has much more in common with her?
You can't tell me that chemistry is everything when it comes to going on dates. Besides, what is chemistry? In one way, you can say it's the butterflies one person gives you, but in another aspect, you can say it's the commonalities that you share with someone else and how well you both fit together.
So how can a girl choose to be with one man, that they won't even like after a while, but then reject or ignore a good man that would be a great fit for her, maybe not even talk to him again after he displayed interest in her, when they could've gone on to be the best of friends and lovers?
I really don't think women use their brain when it comes to dating all that much. Things like this shouldn't happen. I'll even go as far as to say that it's wrong!
A woman should never date a guy that will only provide her short-term satisfaction over a man that has the potential to be with her forever, no matter what! But it's almost like a girl doesn't even know that kind of man when he's right in front of her eyes, or she gets scared or creeped out by him because he actually has strong, real feelings for her and she runs.
It's just not right.
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I'm just going to tell you straight up - it doesn't matter how many commonalities I share with a guy, if I'm not attracted to him and there's no sexual chemistry between us, it's not going to work out. I'm not going to see him as a great fit, because an important component is missing. I can have a friendship with him, but a relationship wouldn't be fair to either of us. Ideally, you find a good guy you have things in common with, who you're also attracted to.
My advice to you would be to try to be less inhibited with women you're interested in (we are not asexual, and we shouldn't be viewing *you* as asexual), and build comfort and attraction. Bring in your strong feelings -after- those things are established and she has a chance to know you. Otherwise, it's too much, too soon.0