It has been a while since I have looked at this website, but I have a question. I am in Afghanistan, and my girlfriend has a lot of guy friends. She has gone to football games, out to dinner, to bars, etc. with some of these friends, and even meets new guys at the bars. There are times that she goes home with some of her guy friends and claims to sleep on the floor. I have not gotten the chance to meet any of her guy friends because we only dated about a month before I deployed. I asked her today what makes dates with me different than dates with her friends. She said that she can only have feelings for me and no one else. I also asked her if they pay for the meal, then is it still not a date? She responded saying that she doesn't mind getting free food.
Does this behavior require some more attention or am I being overprotective and jealous? If I started going to dinner with girls, she would flip out. I am convinced that our relationship is one-sided, because she does things that I would never do to her. I just don't know how to confront her from 8,000 miles away without sounding insecure and jealous. I can really use some professional advice. Thank you!
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Man, relax. That's like the goal of women . . . to have multiple guys as "friends," which means men who will pay for stuff she wants, but for who she doesn't actually have to have sex with. In other words, free money for nothing in return.
Do you ever wonder why women go through all this mental drama online asking why guys can't "just" be "friends" with a girl . . . go ahead and finish that sentence . . . "without the girl having to have sex with him." Phrased differently, "why can't guys just give me free stuff, financial support, emotional support, and free psychotherapy . . . while I just sit there and do nothing that they actually want as men in return for them?"
It's basically a complain about why men aren't down for an unfair or unequal trade.
Please man. That girl is a player. She's emotionally blackmailing and working the men in her life around her finger, and all those guys are eating it right up . . . and it seems like . . . you are one of those guys lol0