I feel as if everyone around me wants me to date and hey don´t even care if a date a psycho, they just want me to date. My entire family keeps asking me when am I going to introduce them to someone, my mother keeps telling me I don´t go out enough and I should because that way I´m going to get a boyfriend, all my female friends (girls who are in relationships and other girls who are single like me) tell me ALL the time that I should date someone and that I´m weird for being single for a long time.
I feel so pressured I actually don´t want to date anyone. I mean, I do want to get to know someone, but I don´t like the pressure of knowing it has to work our and evolve into a stable relationship so that I can please everyone around me.
My best friend also keeps asking me when am I going to settle down. We are both 24 years old, she has been in a VERY serious relationship for the past 7 YEARS. I feel so exhausted and as if nothing I do is enough to please people. I go to school, I have a job, I work out, I do tons of things and I feel all people care about is if I date or not. They make me feel like such a failure.
I have dated some guys in the past three years, but things never evolved into something serious. Of course I would love to have a perfect, normal, happy, 100% exclusive, wonderful and loving relationship, but it´s hard for some people and I just don´t think I have good luck in this...
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This pressure is normal in the sense of being common, but not in the sense of being healthy. A great many people feel like there is something wrong with them because they aren't in a relationship which to me suggests pressure more than desire. On the one hand at 24 you don't need to explain or defend yourself and your choices to anyone. What they are doing is patronizing at best, interfering at worst. On the other hand, be careful that this pressure doesn't interfere with your freedom to date if and when you want to. If you start associating dating with their nagging, you might deliberately avoid things you might otherwise do to avoid looking as if you're giving in. That's no better than giving into the nagging. There is a hint of that in what you wrote already.1