There's this fairly popular girl on campus. Guys are always hitting on her and taking her out and stuff. I'm like 95% certain she's been trying to get my attention but for the most part I've been ignoring her. I think she's gorgeous but I won't date her. My ex always had guys around her that were just friends but in reality I knew that each guy was actually just next on the list if our relationship failed. Cause that was just how she was when sh*t hit the fan she just moved on to the next guy so I always felt the need to be perfect and it was so stressful and I don't want to go through it again. So I've been ignoring this new girl but unfortunately she's still attractive so sometimes my instincts win and I end up looking. Well she's been trying really hard to catch me looking at her and it's starting to really upset her. And I'm mean she looks furious to depressed sometimes. So whether or not she's actually interested in me or just an attention whore (I don't actually believe these exist I just think guys that end up not getting her make up these labels to avoid damaging their own ego) I just want to know should I even consider giving her a chance. I mean I've been telling myself that these guys aren't just gonna disappear so most likely I'm gonna have to deal with that constant pressure no matter what. And yeah she's definitely the most attractive girl I've seen so far but I mean there are billions of other girls out there to choose from. Plus my friends are all starting to get married and I see all the happiness and stability in their lives and I don't feel like she's in the same mind frame. Am I being cruel and irrational or is this an acceptable reason to not bother with trying to date her.
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I think the biggest problem is she hangs out with too many guys and it bothers you. I found out that my crush distant himself from me when I hang with this guy a lot, I can feel like he doesn't want anything to do with me. So I distant myself from my guy friend and hang with my gfs only. That's how we started getting closer. I realize that I can't hang out with guys in front of him else he gets jealous and distant himself from me and I don't want that. I am OK to stop hanging out with guys just so I can be closer to him though. Cause he is all that matters to me.0