I recently broke up with my boyfriend and after a week of breaking up, I started seeing this guy. He seemed to be OK and I thought I like him because he seemed to be cool and I saw a real gentleman in him.. but on our third date, I already found him a little bit boring and sometimes, we run out of things to talk about. After our date, he walked me home and asked me if he can invite me for dinner at his place within the week - I said yes and thought I might give him another chance. Upon saying goodbye, he attempted to give me a kiss on the lips and my immediate response was to avoid that kiss and just smiled at him instead. It was a bit awkward actually because as I see his reaction, he seemed quite embarrassed but I didn't know what to say. I realized, I couldn't do it.. and I know for sure, I haven't moved on from the very recent break up. I called my ex and I said I wanted to see him..
To make the rest of the story short, my ex and I got back together the same night.
The guy seems really nice and is sweet and actually, he called me again tonight to confirm our dinner on Thursday - I just told him, I will confirm tomorrow if I can make it or not. I know I really can't come but I don't know what to say. Now, I really don't know how to tell him that I can't continue dating him anymore without sounding I may have just played with his feelings. Any advice guys? I'd really appreciate it.
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Just say it to him as it is, that you didn't feel the spark, you don't think you're right for each other and you don't want to get his hopes up. I wouldn't mention the getting back with the ex part. There's no real introduction to that. Maybe something like: "hey, I called you because I wanted to talk to you about something. You probably noticed the bit of awkwardness when we said our goodbyes after the date the other day? It's because I don't really feel a spark between us and it wouldn't feel right to kiss you then. I didn't want you to get your hopes up, but maybe we should just stay friends."
Something like that? Or instead of calling him, just meet up with him, though not everybody likes it getting rejected (or dumped) face to face and prefer it through phone or something.