Ok so my friend was setting me up with this girl that I had lots in common with and we texted a few times but never met till tonight and well I really went head over heals for her. I wrote a poem and made her her favorite drink to really make a good impression. When I got there she was flirting with these to guys. I wanted to get their attention off her so after trying to talk to her unsuccessfully about our interests I turned to them instead and got in an argument bout communism. Well it worked, they got totally distracted and she left all three of us. Well later I saw her with one of the guys. My heart is shattered and I hate being alone.
What the hell am I doing wrong?
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Too much, too soon. You wrote her a poem having never met her before. Made her favorite drink again having never met her, and I kinda don't understand - did you bring it out with you to meet her. And the icing on the cake you got into an argument with some guys she was talking to. She got a glimpse of what a relationship with you would be like and wrong as it mean be that glimpse showed you as overbearing, jealous, argumentative, possessive basically all the things we try to avoid.You don't have to change who you are just tone it down.
She wasn't a completely innocent party either. If you're meeting up with a guy for the first time you might have other guys chancing their arm but you either move places or focus you're attention on the guy you're meeting so they'll leave.
It was a combination of everything that made this go so wrong.1