Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year now.but I had to leave to LA (personal reasons) he's in tj right now at the moment,so we`re in a long distance relationship right now.we text ALL day I pretty much know his scheduele school , work , gym.and the reason I know where he's at is because we`re always on chat (fb) we`re always on mobil so we`re pretty much always in contact and iknow where he's at because of the location thingy on fb.i also have his fb password so that's why I trust him.Ok long story short.he hardly goes out he usually goes out with cousins and stuff to drink or something OK so one Saturday night we were chatting (like always) on fb.he was telling me he was at home in bed.THEN I got a message from his mom to HIS Facebook (since I have his ps I get all the messages he gets on mobil) OK he got a message from his mom telling him to now drink so much and to drive home safe.at that moment I new he was lying to me.he wasn't home so I didn't tell him anything to see how far he went.so I asked him , baby are you sleepy ? Its late and he replied yes babe I'm going to bed goodnight , I love you!..,thats when I couldn't stand but tell him about the message I saw on his fb that his mom left him.He refused it.and the bad thing was that I send his mom a message after I told him the message I saw and I asked her if he was home and she said he was! So I guess after I send him thoose messages telling him why he was lying about being home (he was at a club with his cousins) he called his mom to tell her to tell me he was home just incase I called her or somethin.ok this is pretty long now xD right so afterall he admited he lied and now I have him on check.i make him send me pics of him and the places where he's at.am I overacting? Or did he just wanna have fun for one night? Should I still trust him?
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i remember I tried knowing where my long distance ex was every single moment of the day. we were always in constant contact whether on the phone or on Skype.
i think she ended up feeling like she was trapped and suffocated by all the restrictions and constant questions. I've learned that trust is needed for a relationship to work especially in long distance ones.
maybe he told you he was at home so that you wouldn't get mad or that he wouldn't have to answer a bunch of questions. now that you caught him, he probably feels that you're being controlling and snooping through everything even though you found out accidentally. trust me, something similar happened to me and it just made things worst.
i've had friends who made their significant others do what you're doing. (the pictures, staying on the phone to hear who's in the background, and all that crazy good stuff) In the end, he's going to eventually feel like he's being trapped by your actions. if you can't trust him, you probably shouldn't be in a relationship with him.
set up some boundaries such as letting each other know when you're going to be out late with friends. maybe one phone call sometime during the night and one after the person gets home etc.