How much older have you dated? How much older would you date? Does it also depend on the personality? What about his looks? because both guys and girls can go way downhill in mid to late 20s if they don't take care of themselves and have bad genes.
- My age and would not date older but would youngerVote A
- 5 years olderVote B
- 10 years olderVote C
- 10 plus yearsVote D
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Obviously personality and looks will play into it, regardless of age... I think that there are many things to take into account when there's a significant age difference between you and your partner. Some may affect you, and some might not... It really just depends on whether or not you're at the same stage in your life, and whether or not you want the same things for your future. For example. a 20-something dating a 40-year-old is much different than a 30-something dating a 50-year-old, even though both relationships are between people who were born 20 years apart. This is because at 30 years old, a person is old enough to have gone through the same ups and downs as someone substantially older. Shared experiences that factor into personal development include successes and failures in their careers and marriages, children, etc. This is much less likely to be the case if someone's only 21 years old.
Personally, I go by the rule of "age is just a number." This, however, is conditional: I must always feel as though I'm an equal, we must have shared hopes for the future, and it needs to be a genuine bond -- not just a sex-driven ordeal. I've dated guys who were up to 13 years older than me, and I've also dated a guy who was a year younger than me... Age and maturity/compatibility don't always go hand in hand... But most of the time they do. I used to think that I was attracted to men who were substantially older than me... But the older I get, the more apparent it has become that it had nothing to do with age. I don't care what year they were born; I just want to be with someone who looks and behaves like a man, not a boy (that's not to say that they can't be kindred spirits, though).1
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