I've been single for about 4 years now. Not that it bothers me or anything, cause I'm actually very happy with who I am, and what I have become. Anyways long story short. I have dated a lot of woman over these 4 years, and within my life time. Aka taking them out, to just talking to being friends and so on and so forth. Anyways, I've noticed that, a lot of woman go back to there ex's. Like they will date me for sometime, and then not say that its not working out, but after a couple of months, just go back to there ex's. Not that I stole them from their ex or anything. Its like they have a change of heart and want to go back. And its fine, I don't put up a fight, I understand and I allow them to go. Now my question is, why haven't any of my ex's come back to me? I don't get it.
I work hard, have a condo, have a very expensive sports car ( I know this stuff doesn't matter) Am very attractive/handsome from what I hear from ladies, and also very well educated.
Now my question is, why have none of my ex's ever come back to me? I've never hurt any of my ex's physically, nor mentally. And some of these girls that I have dated, have been in really really bad situations, and they still go back?
So why haven't mine come back? I don't get it?..
I've tried reaching out to one of my ex's in particular (first true love in particular), and she just like despises me, which I don't understand why, cause I've never done anything wrong to her(aka it her or cheat on her or anything). Or any other ex I've had. But they never want to work on anything or fix anything or meet up, and chat, or even be friends..
What is it? is it because they know they have shattered my heart, that they know they cannot come back to fix it, even if its fixable, and its super easy to fix? Like I don't have bad breathe or anything lol, and I am a super clean and well cut gentleman, so I don't understand what the issue is?..
Can some people explain to me what might be the case? Is it more so on their end that they cannot do it? for they know they ruined something good?
Opinions greatly appreciated. :)!
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I couldn't tell you why the girls don't come back to you. it's probably something on a pretty complex psychological level that pulls them back towards the familiar, so back to their ex. If you started dating these girls not long after they left their previous boyfriend to whom they went back to, perhaps they were still not over him, and so were with you as a sort of rebound?
I'm sorry they shattered your heart, and still went back to their ex boyfriends. All I could say as to why or how they could do such a thing and not seem to care is that they again, were probably heartbroken themselves from their previous relationships. This could be either because the boyfriend left them and didn't provide the right kind of closure, was abusive to them yet the Stockholm syndrome took hold which would leave them still loving him, etc..
When a woman is fresh from or still not fully over a guy, she really can get into a state where all she thinks about is the guy, what went wrong, blames herself for causing the end of the relationship even though it's clear to outsiders he treated her like sh*t, etc..
It's definitely more, if not completely due to them not being ready for someone else, or something else altogether, but on their end. Don't blame yourself in any way. Just don't give up! There's definitely lots of great girls out there, it's just that much harder to find them amongst all the others :)0