Do you think you were at an appropriate age to start dating?
Do you wish you had started earlier, or waited longer?
I started dating when I was 14, around the time I was starting high school... right now it seems like that's a bit young but at the time it felt all right. I sort of wish my first boyfriend would have been a different guy; at the time I was having fun but looking back I know it wasn't a good relationship and he was somewhat manipulative.
Anyways any thoughts on your overall dating experience so far?
- 14 years old or youngerVote A
- 15 - 18 years oldVote B
- 19 - 24 years oldVote C
- 25 years old or olderVote D
- I have not started dating yetVote E
Most Helpful Guy
I'm not going to count dates to junior high dances, Homecoming, or prom, even if those girls wanted to believe we dated. I had my first girlfriend at 17.
Story time ...
The girl I started dating actually passed me off to her friend after a couple of weeks, which was fine, because I think all I really wanted was *a* girlfriend. I was apparently supposed to have one or something. But this second girl was a great match for me, probably more than any girl I've dated since, even though the relationship was very much characteristic of high schoolers just starting to learn about intimacy and how to relate to each other romantically. I had my first kiss with her and it was, well, perfect. Even today, seventeen years and tens of thousands of kisses later, it is still the best.
But ... around the same time, my best friend, who was then in college, called me, expressed her feelings for me, and asked to get together over the holidays. And from there you can probably see where this is going, so I won't elaborate farther.
Given what happened, I would say that I was certainly not mature enough to handle an "adult relationship" at that time, but I'm also not convinced a 17/18-year-old should be worried about that anyway. I regret hurting the people I did, but in terms of my own life I'm glad for the experiences I've had and the lessons I've learned, then, and since. Even the bad ones.1
Most Helpful Girl
I didn't have my first boyfriend or go on my first date until I was 18 and a senior in high school. (Pretty much skipped the actual dating and we just got into a relationship; we liked each other and went on dates thereafter) He skipped a grade and was 16 at the time we started dating (my birthday came around before his which is why it seems like we're two years apart; it was only a year and a half). I've always been very selective in the guys I've liked. I'm 21 now and have only liked 5 guys in my life and only been in love once. I always knew I wouldn't date at least until college because of the kind of relationship I wanted. I was never into the whole dating just to date thing. I was glad when I met my first boyfriend senior year. I was sad when it ended because I really was wanting us to last and last. He was my first love--and yes, I was really and truly in love with him. I think I still have feelings for him deep down. I'm content with being single now. Been single for over a year.
I've been on one date since then. It went no where lol.2