Hi, I broke up with my first boyfriend in January this year after 9 months of dating. We broke up cause he was flirting with girls on Facebook and asking them out on dates. I couldn't stand it and broke up with him. I was very heart-broken, I cried myself to sleep almost every night.
Three months after we broke up I started dating my classmate, we have been classmates in University for almost four years now. Our relationship is going good, it's going to be our 7th month dating on the 25th of this month. I love him dearly and I lost my virginity to him very early into our relationship (which I hate so much).
My problem is that I can't seem to forget about my first boyfriend. I find myself thinking about him at times, the good times we shared and I wonder how he is. We no longer speak, or have any kind of communication.
I'm 20 years old, I don't know whether my age is relevant or not in helping you understand my situation.
How can I make it stop?
Should I tell my boyfriend about this?
Have you ever experienced this about your first love?
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It will stop in its own time naturally.
I was in the same situation as you.
I was 20 years old and not over my ex.
But I continued to enter into a relationship with a man who I am still with.
Sure, it was challenging at first and even had me question my love for my current.
But I knew ...that given my situation it was best to move forward.
"Sometimes we are better being without the person we love, because
they cause us more pain."
I knew I was in a better place, even at times it did not feel like it.
Do not think about the great times you shared,
think about what cause you to leave in the first place.
Remember, you do not want to go back to that.
I knew with time I would get stronger and I did.
My partner helped me through every thing and we are still together till this day.
Choosing to open up to your boyfriend about this is a personal decision,
It may hurt his feelings.
He may feel like the rebound man.
If you choose to tell him how you feel, be honest how you feel about him.
Let him know you love him as much, but at the same time you are hurting.
If he is very understanding, he will be supportive and help you get through it.
It may even help you bond closer together.
In due time, you will feel nothing for your "first love".0