Over the weekend, I went out with a girl I met online. I had reservations, but I went through with it. I met her near her house, except it was in a really shady part of town. Shady as in, there was a homeless person across the street, hoodlums smoking weed down the street, and boarded up/partially collapsed houses nearby. Overall, it was an old, bad part of town. We hung out for a bit and it went OK, but it just felt wrong. Like I don't know what it was, but something about the whole thing felt off. I just felt uncomfortable and uneasy like something was about to happen.
When I got home, I talked to a few people I'm close with and they said also they wouldn't go back to date her. So I trusted my gut and didn't talk to her. Yesterday she texts me seeing what's up. I tell her that I don't want to continue because I don't feel it. Then she goes into a tirade, cursing me out, and blocks me on Facebook. She sent me this message: "You're a f***ing racist ass wipe! You'll get what you deserve" She's black and I'm white by the way, that didn't really bother me. I'm the type of person that feels bad about things like this... Did I do anything wrong?
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So, I'm black and have dated a lot of white guys in the past. She definitely overreacted, but I understand how she feels. She's probably very insecure about dating someone outside of her race, specially if she's grown up in a lower class neighborhood. The fact that you'd let her surroundings affect your relationship is kinda not cool. You guys could have agreed to meet other places, etc. Did you do anything wrong? I think you could have tried a bit harder...like tried another venue and not let your surroundings affect the PERSON you came to meet before giving her the cold shoulder. But with the way she responded, I think you're probably too young in your relationship to calm her and try again - you don't wanna get into something with someone who clearly has issues you may not be ready for. I think people thing that biracial dating is a walk in the park. It can really be difficult. Quite the rollercoaster ride.
Btw. You're not a racist :) NEXT TIME go somewhere like a nice restaurant... or something - just so you know what kind of crowd you'll be around.