First date with this girl went great, she made me smile and I was laughing alot, same with her. She was playing with her hair a lot! has her legs pointed right at me and all in all seemed very interested. I let her do most the talking and she just chatted and chatted and when she realized this she began asking so what about you type questions? So second date I knew she was really into hiking as she is part of a search and rescue volunteer squad and she does that stuff all the time and this spot locally she hadn't been to yet. So we met up and 3 min later after the meet and greet hug she talking about work and how she is so busy and blurts out she doesn't have time for a realtionship, a little farther up the trail she mentions she just wants friends and then see where things go. I don't really say much but right right and I can understand that. I start talking about more of my interests to her and she says "oh a little country girl would be perfect for you" and kinda looks at me and smiles. She also kinda jokingly later says I would like to find a older well established guy. I don't get it why would a girl that wanted a second date with me and has been smiling at me the whole time on first and second date start acting like neither of us are compatible with each other. Its just a second date. She throwing me a curve already? Not wanting to seem too interested and wanted to see how I would react? I mean why go on a date with a guy if your going say things like that? Mixed signals..uggh
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sounds like the first date went well. I get the vibe she likes you a lot. However something happened between the first and second date. Perhaps she received some advice from her friends to play hard to get ? or, its just in her to pull back a little. Whatever it is, play off her vibe. I think its good that you just let her talk about how you need a "country girl" and how how she needs someone who is more "established" and were silent. The next time she says something about what you "need" say something like " you might be right about that." throw a curve ball and see where the convo steers. if she switches the conversation and it starts sounding like how it did on the first day, then you know she doesn't really mean what she has been suggesting. If the convo stays the same then perhaps yes, she changed her mind.
whatever it is, she's trying to pull back- let her. Or, she's trying to see your reaction. I'd say fall back a little bit. don't mention a 3rd date until she does (if you already have cancel), and when she does tell her your busy and will get back to her the following week. when she starts acting interested you should too.0