Reading articles like the recent one on NYtimes about sexism at Harvard biz school make me think B.S. Let's get this straight a guy won't date a girl because she raises her hand too much in class?!?!? I would be willing to bet that the majority of people complaining about this wouldn't be able to get a date anyways or they have a background in a more traditional culture (i.e. I knew a Japanese guy that was incredibly sexist and only wanted to date quiet submissive women)
Here are some other myths the media puts out that I don't buy:
1. Women that earn lots of money can't get dates because they intimidate men; None of my male friends care about this and I know lots of guys that date girls smarter than them and much more ambitious.
2. If I lift weights at the gym I'll never get a boyfriend because I'll look like a guy; I know lots of women that lift weights, including some that lift pretty heavy weights. None of them had trouble dating. They all either had BFs or guys were flirting with them just like other girls. Also, none of my guy friends thought their weight lifting was weird.
3. If I have sex too soon or with too many guys I'll be seen as as a slut; Again, this has never caused a problem with any of my female friends. I've known girls that have friends with benefits and they have no dating issues. I've never met a guy (except the sexist Japanese guy I knew) that cares about this as long as the girl isn't manipulative about it (i.e. using sex to get something)
4. The pay gap; First of all, I DO BELIEVE the pay gap exists but its greatly exaggerate. I think in certain industries (i.e. construction, stock trading) it exists but a lot of it is because women choose jobs that generally pay less because of supply and demand. I know some women in engineering and none of them complain about the pay gap but their just aren't that many female engineers.However, the women get paid the usually high salaries just like the men.
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It's a combination of the media and young, impressionable girls who are oh so desperate to fit in with a group that they label themselves feminists.
Most girls my age have absolutely NO understanding of feminism or what it means to be a feminist. Looking up a definition in the dictionary does not mean you have the full understanding.
Also, sitting around and ranting about the imaginary oppression women in America face does not make you a feminist.
Yes, the pay gap exists. However, you also have to take into consideration that women often choose different career paths or they don't have the same experience as their male counterparts.
It's not only the education that counts; it's also the passion and previous hands on experience from volunteering, extra courses or any camps attended in whatever career path.
As for 3, I am against labeling girls as sluts, just because it's rather immature. And I notice that girls who label other girls sluts do so because they feel threatened. That said, there are consequences to every action whether male or female. If a guy cries in public then he's seen as a punk bitch.
So, girls can sleep around. Just understand that if you're sloppy about it, people will judge.
2 sounds like bullsh*t. I lift weights and have a bf.
Women who complain that they can't get dates because of their intelligence are the women who are condescending and belittling and make it known that they don't need a man. Both men and women want to feel appreciated, needed and desired/wanted. If you make a man feel like he's an accessory, yeah, he'll be put off.
And why do they feel the need to proclaim how intelligent they are? It's like a certain segment of the population that fits into this category. They're typically smart asses who correct everything a person says and that gets annoying.
So yes, the media as well as young, naive, ignorant girls exaggerate sexism against women.3