My guy friend just broke up with his long term girlfriend. He's very upset about it. We're not extremely close friends, but he doesn't have a lot of friends either. I try to keep him company and change his mind from his ex. Except I'm afraid he'll start to have feelings for me and want to rebound with me. I only see him as a friend. In fact, I have a thing for a mutual friend of ours and he knows this. Any advice on how I can be a supportive friend yet not have him read into something that isn't there?
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I think it's great of you to try to be a supportive friend. I've been in a similar situation and my female friends were extremely helpful. Because I was somewhat damaged and lonely at the time, I was tempted to view several of them as potential rebounds, so your concerns are totally valid. In my case, things worked out pretty well, I didn't use any of them as rebound-girls, and we are still good friends.
Just be as clear as you can be that you're acting as a friend, not a potential source of sex. If it comes up, you might say "I want to be there for you as a friend," or something else with the word "friend" clearly inserted.
If you might be interested in him in the future, but you don't want to be a rebound-girlfriend, try something like "I'm not sure if you should be dating anyone until you've had time to get over [ex-gf]."1