When I first started dating in my late teens, I was the clingy one. I'd want to talk to my boyfriend constantly, always wanted to hear how his day went, and would get almost mournful when I couldn't talk to him. After that went wrong and I got cheated on, I was heart broken but realized what I'd done wrong. I'm not justifying what he did, it was a d*** move, but I realized that I'd been smothering him and the last think I wanted to be was overbearing.
Unfortunately, I feel as though I've been getting a taste of my own medicine. I tend to date guys who are pretty confident in themselves, some of them have even been a little arrogant. I'd get to know them for a month or two first before agreeing to go on a date with them and then we'd get into a relationship. And after a year of initially meeting them, they'd get terribly and I mean TERRIBLY clingy. Eventually, it became overwhelming for me when I'd break it off and they went off on me with either guilt trips or insults. My girlfriends were all stumped, they had no idea why this was happening.
So tell me boys; if you were an overly confident and slightly arrogant prick what would make you a simpering, lovesick fool?
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it seems to me that you've swung the pendulum.
At the root of arrogant people is often times a clingy sort of childish neediness for reenforcement. arrogance typically stems from insecurity and thus overcompensation. so these guys initial arrogance eventually subsides and all that is left is the underlying insecurity...hence being clingy.
my opinion anyway.