So we've been dating for month now I met her through dating site and I really like her so much. Since she lives 40 miles away from me we picked our regular spot in half way because she didn't want me to go all way just to see her.. I'm always a gentleman around her never said anything wrong to make her upset or something I know how to treat woman right.
The thing is she always expect me to pay for everything on our dates never show any effort to pay for something. I work full time and I'm full time student as well, she has 2 part time jobs right now and she graduated with BS degree in psychology this year... She is telling me that we had a big chance to be together but let's take thing slowly we kiss and cuddle a lot and seeing each other 2 times a week co I'm pretty much busy during the rest of the days it's usually Wednesday and Saturday or Sunday... On our first date we went to BigE fair so I bought a tickets since it was a first date I wouldn't mind it then I spend like 100 for other attractions she didn't paid for nothing, the next dates we went to bars and karaoke I also paid for everything she didn't show any interest to even split or offer to pay... Even the six flags tickets she told me we should buy them online but no effort to help paying any dime. She asked me if she could hang out at my house I said yes that would be nice so I took her for first time last Saturday we ordered pizza and wings but again I paid for everything. We watched movies cuddling on the couch and it was okay till the time when she asked me if I could help her paying her phone bill I was like WTF did she just ask me for and I was curoius how much she have to pay then she said it's $137 cos she bought Iphone 5 day after we started dating. So I said nothing because I was so mad at this point. After a while she was like are you gonna help me or not? repeating herself few times. I really didn't know what to say to her cos I have my own expenses I need to pay my car payments, my phone bills, and school... Then I saw anger on her face oh you don't have to help me I gonna find some ways to pay it off. I was like what the heck she expect from me if we gonna be in relationship we shouldn't bring money between us. Yesterday we met but before that she texted me something like the prices of those school application are ridiculous It's $100 so Ima need you to help me because she wanted to do PhD. I didn't text her back nothing just said that we can meet today after I finish work. I don't really know what I supposed to do really fall for her Please give me some advices. by the way we are IR she is Carribean and I'm Polish. I told her what I feel towards her and sheseemed to understand that but I have no clue what she is thinking
Please help me what should I do fall for her and she is cute for me but this whole thing is pisses me off now. We txting each other every day but now she is trying to text less
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Well, you know, if you won't put your foot down she will keep asking you to pay for her sh*t. You need to be more stern. There's a difference between being a gentleman and being a pushover, and right now you're being a pushover. If paying for her stuff really bothers you that much, you should have said it to her straight away. Not bottled it up and paid anyway. So I'd say it's partially your fault it has gone this far.
But with the money thing and the texting, I'd say you guys are not on the same level. Doesn't matter who she's texting, if you don't like it she should be able to put her phone away for a few hours. It kind of does show that she doesn't really care that much about you think, plus I suspect that she might be texting other guys. Her excuses just sound too vague. You're already having problems with her, so I don't think you should go any further with her.0