I'm currently 4 months into a breakup. My ex has rebounded into a different relationship each month since and but this month she's started showing off her new fella off in front of my friends and family. Obviously it stings a little but Ii can say honestly that although I'm not completely over her I don't love her and definitely don't want her back. Since the split I've moved on with life as best I can. Learned lessons from the break up, figured out who I am and what I want and got in shape too. The thing is since she started showing off the new boyfriend to my friends and family I feel like they think I'm a loser because I'm not with a girl. I don't know if its my fragile ego making me think this or whether its really what they think. I've been on 2 first dates since the breakup but I'll be honest I'm really struggling to get dates. I'm working on being happy being single but the fact my ex is showing off her new toy makes me feel awful that I can't get a date. Any advice?
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You should not compare yourself towards her new boyfriend. You are not him and if you were, that means you would be having issues with your ex girlfriend again. Each man is different and no man is comparable to any man - that is something immature adults do. I went through a recent break up but I never compared myself to another guy because it defeats the purpose of your own personality.
Never live to anyone's ideology besides your own. What works for another person should not be used to work you. Let the break up melancholy run its course and don't fight it or use another woman to make her jealous. No man should destroy his honor by using another woman as a means to an end. A woman who flaunts her new boyfriend towards the former boyfriend is a child and immature.
You are a man and a man should have a code of honor to follow. Never use, delude or hurt a former girlfriend just to get revenge. As the adult in any ending relationship, it is maturity that binds you to your feelings of who your identity is after a break up. You were you before the relationship, you were with her during the relationship and now you have to find your new self post relationship.
It gets better, just do not fight the emotions. Never let the emotions control your actions, but find a place to let it run.