Before you jump to conclusions and think I'm some douche bag player, let me explain.
I just moved to a new state and have as a result met a new group of friends. Lots of which are girls. 2 of them I think are attractive, cool women, who both have positive traits. I would be interested in dating either one of them.
What I would like to do is more or less date both of them at the same time to see which won I find to be the best fit. By date I don't mean make them both my GF's. Just hanging out and going on dates.
Normally this isn't hard to do. When people are actively dating, aside from admitting it, none of your dates will know if you were on a date with someone else the previous night. In my case the 2 girls are part of the same friend circle so I'm not even sure this is possible since they'll find out I'm attempting to date both of them.
What should I do?
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You try to make a disclaimer that you aren't some douche bag player, but what you're trying to do is what douche bag players do. You can put lipstick on a pig all you want and it'll still be a pig. Just get to know both of them as friends and then decide who you want to date. You can do that without dating both of them and being a douchey player. If you don't want to just be friends with them and get to know them that way, then it comes off like you really want to have sex with both of them at the same time and at the root of it, your wishes are no different than what a player's would be.2