Okay, so I really screwed up. I was dating this guy for a few weeks and really liked him. But last week I was going through a tough time with family problems and I was really stressed out so we didn't hang out much. I wanted to go hang out with my friends on Halloween and told him that I would hang out with him the day after. He was furious that I went out with friends after I hadn't seen him for a week and I said I was sorry but that I needed space and we could hang out tomorrow. He said "You know what? Don't contact me again. Go to hell" so I hung up and then he sent me like three messages saying stuff like "I regret dating you. You're fat and ugly. You're nothing. I am so far out of your league, you have no idea what you had." I didn't respond to any of the text messages and I have not contacted him at all since he told me not to...but I really miss him and the good times we had even though he said all those terrible things...any advice? Did I really screw up so bad that I deserved this?
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Okay, so he's definitely in the wrong here, but you definitely made a mistake.
You first. Personally, I, like him, would be upset if my girlfriend chose to hangout with friends after we hadn't seem each other in over a week instead of me. Your mistake: "I need my space."
In happy relationships, yes, we need time with friends. But after a full week of not seeing each other, you should have missed him enough to at least invite him along. Hearing "I need my space" does indeed insinuate a break from each other, and that's always harsh to hear. You owed him an explanation instead of just saying you wanted space. He does have a right to be upset in that regard.
However, he was much more in the wrong in terms of his reaction. He should not have insulted you the way he did because he purposely hurt you. He reacted out of anger and wasn't thinking because he was hurt, but that's no excuse. He owes you an apology.
As it stands, since you haven't contacted him and have ignored his texts, I can guarantee he's thinking you wanted a breakup. After all, you did ask for space and now you have all the space life has to offer.
Really, there's only one thing you can do, and that is to request a face to face conversation to talk out your problems. If he denies you that conversation, then its time to move on.0