Much dating advice suggests to find guys who are attracted and interested in you and then find ways to get yourself to be interested in them. In that regard, it seems that generating attraction and connection for the guy is her responsibility.
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Um no. You should just automatically be interested in him if your dating him. Aka you like the way he talks, what he does, his smile, the way he expresses himself.
If your not. And your coming up with "excuses" aka the one you've made up right now. Then your clearly not that into him. And should look at what your actually looking for in a bf/husband. Aka hard worker, lazy bum, good family morals. LOL I don't know you have to figure that out.
But if your dating someone and you don't have a interest to know more about him, and your just there cause your to lazy to leave. Then that's your own fault.