I was born and raised in the US and I'm a mixture of Indian and other races. Being 27 years old I have been dateless all my life. I have met few girls at school but it just like classmates and never see or hear from them again. They seem more into other guys and never me in any kind of way. They usually approach me because they need help with someone, maybe computer help or homework since I'm good at math and science. I'm graduating next semester and I'm really now considering saying bye to the US and find some other country to be at where I will be appreciated. I was thinking of moving to India or perhaps somewhere to Europe.
As for my skin I would say I'm a olive tone or tanned color, but nothing dark. I see mostly white guys here getting dates and girlfriends, so if I want to date a woman from the US, then I will have to my skin bleached to white color. That is how I see it.
I recently met a 18 year old Polish girl online and we starting talking on Skype, and she told me she finds me interesting. After seeing this I'm beginning to think even Europe could possibly be a better place for me to have dates. The US, I think I had it with this country, I'm not very happy here.
I will have to say goodbye to family and friends and say I will never return to this country.
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Your ethnicity has nothing to do with it. You wish to blame your lack of success on women for "disliking" your background, but, really, that is inapplicable and unconnected.
Guess what, I am a woman, and I have found many men of Indian heritage to be incredibly attractive. There is a decent sized community of people of such ancestry where I live, and if our personalities and aims matched, I would be willing to pursue further. (I am not currently dating, though, I should note.)
I think a poster below, MrOracle, made the correct observation that you seem to be what is called a "Nice Guy." Many "nice guys" claim to "finish last" in the dating scene, but it really has more to do with their personality (not their appearance, not their social status, not their career), and shared trait of blaming the world.
Please refer to these two articles:
You need to learn to love yourself and to be proud of yourself before you can expect a woman to do the same. Girls are looking for someone "complete" them, and if all a guy does is play the victim and blame his situation on others, he is not contributing to the relationship - he is draining and taking things away.
You need to experience a firmness, and I will give that to you by saying that, as it stands, I would not date you. Is my view in response to your parentage? Absolutely not. It has to do with the fact that I cannot grow and develop two people at the same time (I am enough work for myself!) - but if you took responsibility and action, I would be willing to attempt a relationship that would /better/ each other. Does that make sense?
Leaving the United States will not deliver the answer you desperately desire, especially if it is with the sole purpose to locate a wife or girlfriend. I encourage you to travel, if you wish, and perhaps your partner really is out of the States somewhere... but you will only find her if you are meant to. Don't be blinded to the world, though; I have heard of too many occurrences (for both males and females) where a person is used to gain something (which can happen even in the US, I suppose... but I would be more careful with someone from another country).
Anyway, that is all beyond the point.
Please take time to contemplate the articles I sent. It will take time to notice a change, if you genuinely acknowledge what must be improved, but I guarantee it will. Just know that love is not something that you have a right to - women are not obligated to love you - you must earn it. Each member in a relationship must extend their entire being for it to work.
Best of luck.0