If the doctors tell you that you won't make it passed your 20's but you're alread in you're mid 20's? and not dead yet? Then they say you most likely will not make it past your 30's b.c of a congenital heart defect? is it foolish to date? Please and thanks for your thoughts!
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acording to doctors I should not have made it to my first birthday, and now I am almost 28, so, you never know what the future holds in store for you.
of anything you HAVE to give yourself the chance to love, everyone deserves it, but you particularly will benefit from it.
yes, just be honest about it, I actually answered long ago in another question here that you do not have to be all "hey, I am W and I have OCD big time", like, most of the time is truly not necessary, even if it IS a real problem to you, it will not directly affect others, at least not in early stages of dating, but yeah, when thing start getting DEEP, you find the time to mention it, but, while I am sure it must be a difficult topic to adress, you try keeping yourself together, not downplay it but try to stay far from making it a tragic situation, a medical situation is always something delicate and people get nervous when faced by it, tears will not make it easier, you obviously are ot going to say it with a broad smile on your face, but try keeping it calmed.
DATE, have FUN, and only when it becomes MORE than fun, then you have "the talk".
I KNOW it can not possibly relate to your situation but maybe this can help:
I met my girl in college, but because of money problems she had to get back to her moms house, now mom was VERY strict and kind of a man hater, we had to change from seeing each other daily and well, behaving very freely, to having to ask for her moms permission to go to the movies once a week and dealing with mom was TOUGH. I remember very clearly when she broke the news to me, she said "look this is the situation... I KNOW this is not what 'signed' for, and you may be having fun with other girls here instead of being at my house with mom traeting you like garbage, I would understand if OUR cause is not worth pursuing any more in your opinion, things are not going to be easy, and you may want to get off the train while you still have the chance, I WILL TAKE NO OFFENSE, but I LOVE YOU, and believe what we have is worth pursuing, I can not get off this train, but I have hope you will ride it with me"
I remember that by her attitude she turn a potentially awful situation into a moment in which I remember thinking "WOW, do not care, she is AMAZING", and well, years later we are still together, and the same can happen to you, just be loving, be honest, and be OPTIMISTIC about it, whatever the doctor says, if you feel GOOD then let nothing stop you.3