I recently asked this question ( link ) about how around the last 15 or so girls I've arranged dates with have all cancelled and then not wanted to see me another time or continually cancelled on me until I gave up. Unfortunately everyone just said the problem is me without telling me what about me the problem is. I thought I'd try again with a little more information. Take this as an example...
I approach a girl to talk to her - She either walks off (might be busy/leaving, might be in a bad mood), rejects me right away (doesn't find me attractive, has a boyfriend, is a lesbian, ect) or talks to me (is either looking for attention, being polite or finds me attractive). I can understand the reasons for all these responses.
We talk for a bit and I suggest we meet up again some time and ask her for her number - She either agrees (looking for more attention, has decided she is interested in me, or is scared to reject me to my face) or refuses (isn't interested in me for whatever reason). I can understand the reasoning for either of these as well.
I text her and try to arrange a date - She either doesn't reply (only wanted the ego boost, met a guy she liked better, gave me a fake number to get rid of me), doesn't want to go on a date/won't give an answer (isn't interested) or agrees to it (because she wants to meet me). Again I understand all of these
The thing I don't get is that every girl I've asked for the last 6+ months that has agreed to go on a date has cancelled, either by texting me the night or morning before, or by not responding to any texts on the day we are meant to meet. Why do girls do this? What is the motivation? Surely if they didn't like me they had plenty of opportunity to turn me down just like the others that didn't like me?
What would make you do this to a guy?
Nobody else seems to be able to think of any better reason either.
Most Helpful Girl
The fact that you think all these girls are "looking for attention" or "looking for ego boosts" is concerning... Don't assume things like that.
You call girls who talk to you "attention whores"...
You seem to have a bad view of women and this may show through your texts following the initial ask out.
It's not normal that they all cancel. They are not accepting because they're looking for attention, an ego boost or attention whores. Something (and we can't tell you what it is unless we witness it because you're not telling us) is scaring these girls away.
If we're not interested we don't give you our number.0
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